Oral sex is often a huge part of pleasuring your partner during play time with your partner, but it can be a little challenging to get used to. Feeling a little unsure about your own technique? Never done it before? Don’t fret, you’re in the right place! Just follow this blog for some tips to help you on your way and you will be blowing your partner’s mind in no time!
Don’t be afraid to get wet
It can get intimidating to tackle a man’s shaft but what often makes it easier is to make it wet. That way it will slip through your mouth more smoothly and make it a far more lubricated, pleasurable experience for your man. Don’t be afraid to use a lot of spit and tongue action to get it wet! If you feel a little embarrassed, don’t worry, most guys will tell you sloppy head is best! If you struggle with getting your mouth wet, make sure you drink plenty of water beforehand as you will be using a lot salvia and you may get thirsty. If it’s still tricky, there’s lots of yummy flavoured lube you can use on his shaft instead.
Let your tongue take charge
You don’t have to take his shaft in your mouth immediately. When starting out, build up the tension by licking the tip and swirling it around. Lick the shaft from base to tip, drawing the tongue slowly up and massage by swirling the tongue from side to side. Don’t rush it, take it slow before building up the speed and increasing the intensity. As you do this you should feel him get harder and increase the excitement as you do so.
Don’t forget the Tip
Focus the stimulation on the tip as it is very sensitive and this will turn him on more. It’s the most sensitive area so I find I really enjoy sucking the tip gently and then rubbing my lips all over it. Kiss it and rub it gently to tease him. You can also use your hands to rub the shaft and massage the base while paying special attention to the tip with your tongue and mouth.
Yes… teeth really do hurt!
Avoid using or scraping the shaft and head with your teeth! If this is a first time or you are struggling, it’s always best to practice by sucking on your finger or on a dildo beforehand. Simply withdraw your teeth backwards in your mouth and suck. It can be tricky at first but once you get the hang of it, it will become totally automatic.
Tie those long strands back
Keep your hair tied back! If you have long hair it’s a lot of fun during sexual intercourse but can be a nuisance when it gets in your face during oral sex! Best way to get around this is by tying it up in a hairband before you get started. Or get your man to hold it up which can up the tension and make it more exciting as this gives him more control.
Make sure you are in a comfortable position
There many positions you can take when giving head but if you’re unsure where to start, it’s easiest to sit on the bed with your partner standing in front of you. This gives you leeway to adjust your body while seated. It’s also a great way to make eye contact by looking up, as it helps to increase the intimacy and connection between you both. Also, men find it hot when you give them eye contact during blowjobs! If you are feeling more adventurous, you can get on your knees (just make sure the floor isn’t too hard as it could make your joints hurt while giving head which can distract from giving pleasure. You can also lie down on the bed and take it in your mouth while he stands above you. I wouldn’t advise doing this until you feel more experienced as it is much harder to suck and doesn’t give your head much space to move.
Don’t forget his balls
A highly pleasurable part of blowjobs. Lick them gently or take one in your mouth and suck them. You can do this towards the end or between by alternating from licking balls to his shaft and back. Just remember to be gentle when holding a ball in your mouth and avoid using teeth!
Spit or swallow?
So he’s finally climaxed and came. It’s up to you whether you want to swallow or spit or take it inside at all. Some ladies find the taste odd or distasteful, personally for some reason I really like it! It can feel strange at first, my first time tasting it really creeped me out as I had never come across that sort of flavour before, but the more I did it, the more I got used to it. I like swallowing because I take pleasure from the feeling that I succeeded in giving pleasure and getting him to come, but that’s entirely up to you and how you feel about it.
Next time you and your partner are in the mood to have a little fun, try making the first move and initiate a blowjob and see where these tips get you! Remember the most important thing is to relax and have fun. Some ladies struggle with blowjobs as they don’t receive pleasure but I feel that giving and making my partner enjoy it is the way I make it fun for me. It may take time getting used to, but practise makes perfect!